Waiting for a Married Man to Divorce?

The majority of my clients are women and about half of them get readings about love and romance. And a surprising number of these ladies are involved with married men.

Although I don't judge any client for any situation in which she finds herself, I can offer some general advice about these tricky situations. Having been reading professionally for decades, I've noticed some distinct behavioral patterns in these love triangles. And while I am sure there are married women who assure their single lovers that divorce is coming someday, I don't have experience reading anyone going through that, so I cannot speak to that situation.

The biggest pattern I have noticed is that women who get involved with married men may not, at the beginning of the affair, think too far into the future with this man. What often starts out as just a physical, sexual "situationship" ends up with her hoping -- secretly or otherwise -- that he is going to leave his marriage. Even worse, some women completely believe that divorce is inevitable, simply because he has assured this other woman that yes, leaving is definitely his plan. Hmmm.

Nine times out of ten, however, he never leaves. I had one client years ago who had been waiting for the married man to get divorced for nine long years. Nine. "As soon as my youngest kid graduates from high school," is a common excuse, and one of several he told her. "The wife has cancer right now, I can't do that to her until she is better." Or, "As soon as the company goes public I'll have the funds to leave." Etcetera, etcetera, the list goes on ad infinitum. Via my clients' stories, I've heard every excuse under the sun.

What the other woman fails to realize, sadly, is that married men hardly ever leave. These men claim they are separated, or that, despite living under the same roof, he and his wife have separate bedrooms. "We're like two ships that pass in the night," one married guy told another client of mine. Despite my warning to her otherwise, she believed him -- until she found out that they were two ships who banged in the night.

Yet another client was excited when her married lover moved out of the home and got his own bachelor pad. She was sure that he was on his way to divorce, despite my warnings otherwise. Sure enough, he went back to his wife over one year later, and left my client high and dry despite his previous promises. She was shattered, understandably. I just wish she had listened to me during the numerous readings about this situation, but she did not want to believe it.

I feel empathy for women who put their lives on hold for a guy who was already committed to another, legally and otherwise. He may assure the other woman that he loves her, but she is guaranteed to be celebrating solo on Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's day, Mother's Day, any important holiday that he will be celebrating, happily or unhappily, with his wife. Putting your life on hold for someone who sees you when it's convenient for him is no way to live.

Although I never tell clients what to do, as that is not my job, I do wish that they would see their "other woman" situations from my outsider perspective. Time passes quickly and before one realizes it, months if not years have flown by. Time waiting around for a married man is time wasted. One could use that valuable time to spend happily with another man who is emotionally available.

Usually, women swear that their married lover is their one true soulmate, and they can't fathom loving anyone else. But, in every reading involving these doomed love triangles, I have been shown otherwise and encourage my client to explore alternative relationships. Whether or not they believe me that there is indeed someone else out there for them, well that's up to them.

If you find yourself falling for a married man, just don't. Stop before it's too late. If he claims he is unhappily married, put your love on hold until the ink on the divorce papers is dry. Otherwise, you are taking a huge risk, which I guarantee will inevitably end up with you devastated, if not in therapy. I've seen this heartache happen to my clients countless times , so do yourself a favor -- be smart and walk away.

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Waiting for a Married Man to Divorce?